Zara Maqbool

A therapist in training and freelance writer.

Sin or Swim

By: Zara Maqbool Last night I had the misfortune of coming across a morning show. I had the choice of quickly changing the channel but the unexplainable and obnoxious dance number taking place made my fingers powerless to change the channel. Also the deadline of submitting a blog breathing down my neck every week piqued…

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NO TV Dinners  

By: Zara Maqbool  No TV dinners? Easier said than done! I work in the afternoon, which allows me an hour or so in which I have to make sure the kids have eaten their lunch, changed their clothes after being back from school and so on. Stressed out due to time I used to give…

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Click Away!

By: Zara Maqbool  When did it really start? When did we feel that we have to capture all our important moments of our life in our smart phones, yet very mindfully selecting those images that are society worthy experiences? Do we feel we would only become significant to others if they knew we did something…

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Déjà vu

By: Zara  Maqbool  So after my last week’s blog got published, ‘Switching off the mommy mode’, I received feedback from men and women questioning my logic and desire to travel alone as I had earlier mentioned in my last blog. After a most wonderful vacation spent sans hubby and kids, I no longer feel the…

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Turning off the mommy mode

By: Zara Maqbool I am blessed to be a mother of three children. A teenager, pre-teen and a toddler, the apples of my life and the reason I breathe and smile. For the past thirteen years I have never traveled alone without my husband or kids, this thought never crossing my mind. How can I…

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Mindfully De-stressing

Stress is like a second skin that almost everyone wears these days. Marriage, relationships, careers, home; you name it and we all have our own bucket list of stress. We all face time and again mental and emotional pressure, some more than others. We also have our own ways of coping with it. Some go…

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Learn not Earn

By: Zara Maqbool The Sindh Assembly has collectively passed a bill against employment of children below the age of 14, which makes child labor an offence carrying a punishment of prison term and fine. The Bill states up to six-months’ imprisonment and a fine up to Rs.50, 000 for the offenders. And if a child…

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March For Your Right

  By: Zara Maqbool Right after the first day of Donald Trump’s inauguration, massive women marches took place across US and worldwide, expressing concern that women’s rights will be violated under Mr. Trump. It was a women’s march but there was so much more in its spirit. I felt inspired and awed by these women…

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The Honorable Woman

By: Zara Maqbool Last week I found out that my cook is involved with a married woman of three kids and wants to marry her. Sumera ran away from her home and came to my house leaving her kids behind. Her husband had verbally divorced her and then married her to his brother for ‘nikkah…

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Will you listen to me?

By: Zara Maqbool Do you really listen or just hear? I just heard for a long time till I started training as a counselor and I realized how different listening was from just hearing and what an impact it has on our interpersonal skills. Many times I hear people saying to the other in an…

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I don’t trust YOU!

By: Zara Maqbool I have decided to come out of the closet. Yes I do experience pangs of mistrust when it comes to my husband and the presence of eligible females, sending a warning signal immediately. I dedicate this blog to my dearest husband who now and then suffers at the hand of a ‘shakki’…

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Prescribe without Bribe

By: Zara Maqbool Last week I called a pediatrician who was kind enough to respond on text, to take advice for my four years old who had a very bad cough. The doctor prescribed steroids for three days without asking any details about the cough or any associated symptoms. Partly it is my fault to…

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Tug Of War

By: Zara Maqbool My neighbor, a single father of two had the custody of his teenage daughter and ten years old son since his divorce. The custody battle had been going for more than four years.  Since that time I have been a witness of the negligence those children had suffered in one way or…

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Caterpillar to Butterfly

By: Zara Maqbool After writing a series of blogs on serious, hopefully thought provoking issues I felt it was time for some much needed comic relief especially in these trying times where Trump becomes the most powerful man in the world in his full blown orange glory and Pak-India tensions continue to brew. My attempt…

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It’s okay to say ‘NO’

By: Zara Maqbool  My friend recently teased me that whatever I am learning as a counselor, I end up writing a blog about it for lack of more creative blog ideas. In my defense I counter argued that if he cannot turn off his therapist button I might as well use my learning for writing…

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Teach empathy not sympathy!

  “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” These words by Dalai Lama shamed me in thinking of how rarely have I talked about kindness to my children. Mostly I focus on my children’s personal happiness and achievements rather than teaching them how to care for others. Partly I feel it was because my…

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A Mother’s Choice

By: Zara Maqbool One of the defining issues between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton during the US elections is ‘abortion’ where the former considers it murder and says he is ‘pro-life’ whereas the latter believes it to be a woman’s free choice and that it should be made legal and not dependent on any pre-conditions….

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The things we find f-f-f-u-n-n-y

  A sequel to ‘Karachi se Lahore’ is now ready to release in the   theaters. According to the director of the movie, the sequel was made because the character of ‘Moti’ played by Yasir Hussain became an instant success; his stammering being the highlight of what a great comic actor he was and the subject…

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An actor’s Dilemma

Ever since tensions have escalated between India and Pakistan, the electronic and social media these days is filled with news and queries about whether Mahira Khan has been replaced in ‘Raees’ her first movie with Shah Rukh Khan or if Saif Ali Khan’s face will be plastered on Fawad Khan’s in his upcoming Indian movie….

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Say NO to the BULLY

Ever since my children started to school, the first question I would ask them the minute I would pick them at home time was, “How was the day?” Sometimes there would be complete silence and that was cue enough to let them be at that time and gently bring up the subject again and in…

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Serendipity Singles

  Yesterday my younger and extremely possessive brother who I thought had outgrown that possessive streak since I am married, a mother of three and very soon hitting my 40s, asked me a question. He wanted to know why I have been commenting on the Facebook posts and pictures of a male acquaintance of mine….

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