Zara Maqbool

A therapist in training and freelance writer.

Caught On Camera  

By Zara Maqbool Last week as I made my regular visit to the bank, one of the branch officers came up and said, “Can you please come on the side? There is an issue that we need to discuss with you.” The way he beckoned me to listen to him immediately raised my defensive bars…

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The Protective Predators

By Zara Maqbool Since Zainab’s brutal rape and murder has come in the limelight, child sexual abuse has become a topic some people are comfortable to discuss now. There is discussion going on whether schools should create awareness on sexual abuse. Media is discussing this issue more openly too and seems like the censor board’s…

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A mother’s confession

By Zara Maqbool I am scared! As a mother, the primary emotion I am feeling these days is fear. Scared for my children’s safety in this country, which is our home and where we are considered to be first-rate citizens. I feel scared when I receive messages regarding security threat right in the sector where…

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Techno-lationships

By Zara Maqbool I think very soon, I am going to be declared a technology/digital hater or whatever term you want to coin for me. The reality is, in this age mobiles, gadgets, social media and what not, have played a huge role in bringing a change in many spheres of life mostly positively but…

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We will move on!

By Zara Maqbool All over Pakistan but primarily Kasur has been a hub for a series of child abuse cases since 2006. Zainab is not the first girl who has been raped and murdered. She is the 12th case of sexual abuse in the past 12 months. Over 720 cases of such nature have been…

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Emoji’s speak louder than words

By Zara Maqbool  Since a few years I have noticed how many people including myself who have fully embraced the digital era have started using emojis instead of words to communicate to one another. Seems like we are at a loss of words these days and a smiley, heart or party popper used in abundance…

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Lost In Lahore

By Zara Maqbool There is no doubt that the Sharif brothers have played a huge role in building and improving the transportation system in Lahore. With the Metro buses, Orange line, bridges and underpasses and what not, they have undoubtedly put their heart and soul in improving the commuting for the Lahoris. There are definitely…

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Dead City No More

By Zara Maqbool I am not a native ‘Isloo-ite’ but as a child this city with its beautiful hills, the high and low slanting roads and serenity and quiet always fascinated me. Growing up I always felt excited visiting family and friends in Islamabad. While my Lahori friends used to complain of how dead this…

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Call of nature

By Zara Maqbool Last weekend I attended the Coke Festival in Islamabad. We had taken a food stall there so I ended up going three days in a row. I would be unfair if I say that it was not super organized whether it was the security arrangement, tickets counter, the food stalls and very…

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Change Manipulation To Motivation

 By Zara Maqbool As a working mom of three kids one thing that has become a constant in my life is how to balance the two roles in my life. How to focus on my career and personal growth without any guilt and at the same time raise three fully functioning, healthy and kind human…

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Anxiety Matters

 By Zara Maqbool   In the last few months, I have come across many people who complain of suffering from anxiety. A few of my clients have a similar issue complaining about anxiety that ranges from general anxiety without any distinct manifestation, panic attacks, obsessive-compulsive disorders, phobias, social anxiety or any that comes post a…

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Branded Bandwagon

By Zara Maqbool   Have I been jumping on the branded bandwagon? It’s a question I ask myself many times when the shopping impulse becomes uncontrollable and I have to see whether I am shopping a brand or actually being quality conscious. Ever since my first born came in this world fourteen years ago I…

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Is it a shame to be shy?

By Zara Maqbool Yesterday one of my clients asked me, “Do I come across as a shy person to you?” The question would have taken me for a surprise had I not known his history. His parents had always shamed him for being shy and sissy. Otherwise his first impression was of a charming confident…

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Work On Your Child’s Self Esteem

 By Zara Maqbool  In my short counseling career, one thing that has stood out for me very starkly again and again is how all my clients suffer from low self-esteem and self-worth. This low self-esteem is being carried by them from their child hood and greatly affects their relationships and their life goals. I commonly…

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Naik Parveen Syndrome

By Zara Maqbool Humsafar, Mann Mayal and the currently running Yaqeen Ka Safar and a few more popular Pakistani dramas have one thing in common; a ‘naik parveen’. The female protagonist is a traditional innocent looking girl who come hell or high water will keep her head covered with a dupatta. She is a shy…

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The Informed Choice

By: Zara Maqbool Last week I took my 10 years old to Shifa Hospital Islamabad to consult with a gastroenterologist.  He had been suffering from some vomiting and stomach issues.  I normally take reference from some trusted source when consulting with a doctor I don’t know about but this time checking his credentials I took…

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Safety is more important than good manners!

By: Zara Maqbool   I recently came across Farhan Akhtar’s open letter to his daughter where he talks about issues that we all tip toe around especially as parents to our children.  He talks about issues that not many fathers would be comfortable to talk to their daughters about.   It’s a fact that we…

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Do I Know What I Want?

By Zara Maqbool  In my 40th year I can proudly say I have a professional career that seems like the best choice for me. A career that I feel deeply connected to and simply put, “I have found my calling!” Starting with science subjects because our school didn’t offer any other choice, going into medical…

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Why Care?

By: Zara Maqbool   My friend Farah is the inspiration behind this blog. I was sharing my frustration at not knowing what to write this week when she asked me, “How about global warming?” And to be honest hating geography in college somehow this topic did not pique my interest at all. She then asked me,…

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Cut It Out

 By: Zara Maqbool Its been a year since I have started seeing clients and one feeling that pre-dominates all others after the sessions is a wave of helplessness and an overwhelming need to raise awareness on so many issues that I feel at a loss as to where to start from. Luckily I got this…

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No Refund Or Exchange

By: Zara Maqbool   Part owner of a fast food franchise, what we focus most is on developing a good relationship with our customers. The question that we ask ourselves repeatedly is how to make the customer happy, even at the cost of sometimes making less profit. But not every business owner believes in the…

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